": ) Let's talk about the power struggle in a relationship? Specifically with an outspoken, successful woman."(The smiley face was included when she submitted her topic. I thought that was cute! HA!)
Now I know this is great beauty shop buzz talk, so we are gonna get straight to it!
Me personally, I don't have a problem with a powerful woman...it's sexy! Most men would verbally agree, but a large percentage of them could be lying. We won't talk about the fake males...let's focus on the REAL MEN!
Like I said, a powerful woman is a sexy thing! Women were put on the earth to keep men on their toes and challenge our intellect. We need the woman in our relationship for moral support and know how to take charge in our absence (Like the Spartan wife from the movie "300"! She was a QUEEN B!).When things get rough, money is tight, etc...we need our lady to challenge our thinking. "Why wouldn't it be more productive to go down this avenue of business versus investing your money here?" <---Statements like this? COMPLETE TURN ON!!!
But here's the flip side
Because women are successful, outspoken (and even make more money than her man) think they are a boss, they subconsiously believe that they wear the pants in the relationship. I'm not saying be timid and quite like a good little house wife....what I am saying is let your man BE THE MAN! If he can't handle that title, he don't deserve you.
I will take the same example from the movie in "300". The wife knew that war was wrong, and against the law. But she believed in her man, and supported him 100%, and used her "Success and Outspokeness" (as @crackntheflesh put it) to use for the good of her husband's cause. She did not try to dominate the relationship, and hold over his head "I'm a Queen! I make my own money! We can get seperate accounts!!!". This does absolutally nothing for the relationship!
There's my input! Ladies, feel free to converse about the subject in the comment box! Tyrone has left the Beauty Shop on Woman Wednesday!
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Thank you! I brought up this topic because it is a struggle for me. I was just talking about this with my girls over cocktails the other night. I hate to say I am independent because that makes it sound like I don't need/want a man. Wrong! It just means I am not co-dependent on anyone (not even family) because when push comes to shove, I gotta have me! Or it may be the Picses in me. In any event, it is a delicate balance that I am working on, so if any men have advice, I'd like to hear it.
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