Finding time for love is one thing...but maintaining yourself while you're in love is another. With some men, this can be a problem...with others, not so much.
Ladies, if your dude keeps subtly trying to give you hints to leave him alone (Ex: "I'm just tryna chill and watch TV", "Why do I gotta be home all the time"..etc) take the hint. You're smothering him. But some men can flip the script! Watch out for that too!
Love needs a balance, and it's all about knowing his/her personality. I always tell people "If you and your boyfriend or girlfriend are constantly arguing and irritated with each other all day...even just in texting each other, you both talk to each other too much." Just because you like/love each other, doesn't mean you have to talk all day long! At the end of the day, you want to enjoy your man/woman's attention and conversation....that can't happen if you're constantly texting "What are you doing?" "Having a good day?" "What did you have for lunch?" <----WHY IS THAT IMPORTANT? WHY DO YOU CARE??? It's stupid! Stop wasting my time on irrelevant questions. Maybe if your man misses you long enough, he will come to you and say "Hey, I haven't heard from you all day/week long...let's have a movie night!" And all of a sudden, you've been romanced again.
But the other side of this post is this: You can't do any of that if you never have time for anything. I recently went through this with a female. We met at the club, we both made a connection and we exchanged numbers. The problem I have now is that she is constantly working! At first, it had me even more interested, because the only thing more sexy than a woman with her own job and own things, is a woman on her own grind....BUT DAMN! Do you have any time for yourself? For other people? Every time I called her, she was busy and at work. What was the point of giving me your number if you aren't going to make time for the friendship/relationship?
I gave you the two extremes for you to gauge where you are in your relationship. Are you too busy for love? Or are you not busy enough to have your own life and you're smothering your man?
Do men a favor.....find the balance.
(subject suggested via twitter)
It's definitely important for both parties to have a separate identity, and shared interest. Nobody wants to date the man or woman sitting by the phone waiting for his or her call. You better fake like you have a social life, or interests of your own. It jus' makes for a more meaningful union. I'm always doing me. Somewhere locked into a daydream, reading, writing, musing, baking. I gets it in outside of being some lucky man's woman. :)
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